Are you pregnant? Or HAVE been pregnant?

i have an honest question, and i wanted to ask because i honestly dont have a clue about what a pregnant women FEELS, towards the other women who is struggling, or had few failures during TTC treatment, etc

do u actually feel

1. PROUD

2. IGNORANT

3. INNOCENT

4. HAPPY (of course, for yourselves)

5. LUCKY

6. SORRY

7. DONT KNOW WHAT TO FEEL so you'd say anything that u want about you being pregnant.

8. DONT CARE, im not the one struggling with difficulties on getting pregnant, so its not my problem to take care of your feelings, its not my job to take care of anyone's feelings.

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Mintak maaf, not to offend anyone, just curious because, aku terkena banyak kali. sama ada sengaja atau tak, atau aku terlebih sensitif? tapi adakah aku je yg kene sensitif dan orglain takyah? Bila aku ckp mcm ni bukan maksudnye aku nak educate org semua, but it just that kadang2 aku wonder, adakah semue org yg sedang mengandung atau PERNAH mengandung merasa benda yg sama? seperti di atas? (sila pilih mana2)

i might be wrong, but because that was what i think u MIGHT feel, sebab aku terasa bile ade kawan or sape2 yg say something yg mcm secara taksengaja bagi aku tER-rasa. Eh pedulik apa kalau aku terasa?

But its just that, ADAKAH korang mmg rasa mcm tu? or, adakah korang rasa tak penting lansung? yg penting perasaan korang je?

i happen to bump on a friend, who tak semena2 nye citer yg dia dah 4 bulan, tapi perot laki die yg mcm 6bulan... (in a way to let me know that she IS pregnant, again) kononnya nak joke about perot laki dia yg boroi lebeh boncet dari dia yg sedang pregnant ini. So it doesnt sound like she's telling me that she is 4months pregnant, whereas it DOES sounds like it to whomever struggling to TTC kan. so what are u expecting when u say things like that, to mE?

"eh pregnant ke! congratulations!"

mcm tu ? but maybe, if I AM pregnant, i would like to share the good news to my friends, and would love to feel flattered about being congratulated for being pregnant. but sometimes, little things should be considered for just a SEC. not for your whole 9months, u can have it all! but just a SECOND. i dont know what im saying, im just honestly dont know if that is what u feel.

mesti awkward kan bila ko mcm beriya nak hint bagitau org yg ko pregnant, lepastu org tak tanya ape2 pun to show that she is interested to know anything else about ur pregnancy.

contoh:

pregnant friend: eh aku rase mcm pening2, loye2 muntah ni...period pon dah miss..
me: so?

hahaha

or

pregnantfriend: eh, kali ni aku mcm mengidam mcm2 pulak rasa...mase 1st dulu tak pon
me:..........(diam je, buat2 tgk enfon, sms)

heh, careful if  u wiSH me to be interested in your pregnancy, like "eh yeke? ko brapa week dah? blabla? muntah terok tak kalini? Sorry, i wont ask you. i WILL, if i want to, but i try not to show that im interested because im not.
ok i Congratulate ALL OF YOU in advance,  but please dont tell me anything because,

ADA AKU TANYA KE?

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shit how jahat i sounded like..minta maaf zahir batin. i have no where else to talk to. my husband is tired of hearing things like this. so i decided to write them here, if we are in the same boat, i have no guilt about what i wrote. but if you feel like u have been the said pregnant women, u are blessed. honestly. u are. if u are my friend, im so happy that u are having a baby, or will be having the next. but if i dont ask anything, u dont need to tell me each details of your nausea, ur symptoms, ur whatever, because i dont ask, and its annoying. why do u enjoy it?

kdg2 aku heran, kenapa  manusia enjoy meng-ANNOY org. or its just an innocent feeling like "eh ko terasa ke? sorry takde niat lansung nak sakitkan hati ko..aku saje je nak cite"

MMG LA...

aku takot kalau aku kene annoy sbb mulot aku skang ni jahat, kdg2 aku teros annoy org yg annoy aku sbb aku rasa tak perlu aku risau kalau die rase annoyed sbb perasaan die adalah tak penting lansong, seperti mana perasaan aku yg takpenting lansung utk dia. jadi aku takot sgt utk rasa ANNOYED sbb aku takot aku akan ter ANNOY org.

haih ape lagi la aku ni hari2 bebel dgn diri sendri...

bukan la maksudnye aku ni terok gila sampai takleh dgr pregnancy news lansung. Aku mampu lagi utk dengar pregnancy news, aku boleh dgr dan aku syukur bila orglain mengandung. Sebab aku ada peluang utk bersedekah, bila dia beranak nanti. Aku ada peluang untuk beli baju baby atau brg2 baby utk dihadiahkan kpd org yg beranak itu.

Aku pun kdg2 bertanya kpd kawan aku yg pernah pregnant atau tgh pregnant, tentang perkembangan dia. Sebab maybe it just HAPPEN yang aku mmg nak tau, and because i care about her. tapi kalau ko buat2 bagitau psl pregnancy ko, di tgh2 perbualan yg takde kena mengena dgn pregnancy lansung, itu la yg buat aku pikir "eh nak jugak die ni citer sal hal perot dia..dia takleh idup ke satu hari kalau takde org tanye sal pregnancy dia?"

does it make u feel insecure? does it make u NOT feeling pregnant? does it make u feel relieved to let people know ur symptoms? (yang berjuta wanita lagi rasa benda yg sama, not u alone)

i dont know, thats why i asked. this is a GOOD reminder for me when im pregnant soon. u can paste this page on my face if i annoy you in the future. i promise.

but i know a few women who, just keeps quiet until her belly shows off. then org akan tanya "eh mengandung ke?"
masa tu lah baru dia jawap "insyallah...doakan ye"

kan murni dan mulia gila kalau semue org mcm tu? tapi mmg takkan leh paksa la semue org jadi gitu kan. every women feels different.

OK la I TRY to be optimistic.

mungkin dia rase mcm nak muntah darah kalau die tak citer psl ape2 perkembangan pregnancy dia hari ini.

mungkin dia rase perot die sakit gila kalau dia tak citer psl die dah brape weeks.

mungkin dia rase nak pitam kalau dia tak ckp yang dia mengidam mcm2.

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HESH dah la aku nih..susah la kalau asik emo je. ! hehehehe

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